Ghosting, Breadcrumbing, and Bench-Warming: The Hidden Pitfalls of Modern Dating.
In the digital age of dating apps, connecting with new people has never been easier. Yet, with this convenience comes a darker side: the rise of toxic behaviors like ghosting, breadcrumbing, and bench-warming.
These behaviors not only contribute to emotional turmoil but also distort the way we view relationships and commitment. So, what exactly are these behaviors, and how are they affecting the modern dating experience?
Ghosting is perhaps the most well-known of these behaviors, where someone abruptly cuts off all communication with a person without any explanation.
Whether after a few dates or weeks of texting, the sudden disappearance can leave the other party feeling confused and hurt.
Breadcrumbing, on the other hand, involves sending sporadic, non-committal messages to keep someone interested without any intention of pursuing a serious relationship.
It’s like giving just enough attention to keep the person hanging on, but never enough to move things forward. This behavior is often seen in those who crave validation but aren’t ready to commit—leaving the recipient feeling strung along and emotionally drained.
Then there’s bench-warming: when someone keeps multiple options "on the bench" without committing, always keeping others in a waiting pattern.
They might go on a few dates but never fully invest in anyone, all while keeping their options open in case something better comes along.